Life & Relationships

The Three-Day Discover Yourself Workshop was conducted in Kochi, Kerala at ‘Woodlands Manor’ on 8, 9 & 10th June 2007.


The participants share their experiences after the Workshop.

JAMEELA: I was a very depressed, sad and guilty person before the workshop. I had lost two of my children and was always worried about my only son. After attending the workshop and personally speaking to sir, I feel that I am much more lighter and happier. I feel like letting go of my tension and worries. I now have the strength to speak with my husband and son freely on the loss of our sons and not hold back pretending that everything is right.


NOORAIN: This workshop has proved to be really fruitful for me in many ways. It has reformed me and transformed me into a better Muslim. The change is within me, you know yourself better. By accepting the realities and facts of life, you actually seem to accept life as it is. Thus make this place-this world a better place to live in. It was the way it was presented that made it all the more interesting. Allah of course is the greatest power and strength in the universe. Such workshop really makes a difference in our lives in some way or the other. I wish our spouses to get an opportunity to benefit.


SAMINA: I had made my life miserable. Now I feel that it was my mistake. This workshop has helped me become a good wife, a good mother and a good human being. Instead of adding fuel to the fire, I can be cool even in the fire. I want to make my life, my home a place of love not a place of hatred and jealousy. I want to make my husband feel that he has got the best wife and I want my daughter to have the best mother so that I can experience a lot of love from them. I think it has started working. Thank you brother, you have changed my life.


KIRAN: The workshop was really wonderful. After coming to the workshop, I think my tension has come down, now before shouting at my children, I think twice. Difference of opinion between my husband and me has come down. I feel happy and calm.


NAZIA: Before attending the workshop, my main feelings were anger and getting back at others (especially spouse and children) for saying and doing things against my wish. Now I feel that if I am good and sweet to them, they will reciprocate my feelings and be good to me. On the second day when I went home, I did not create a fuss about the house being in mess or scold the children. I spoke to them with love and calmness and there was peace in my house. I have realized that I am responsible for maintaining peace and harmony in my home. If I am happy then my family is happy. The whole outlook of looking and judging others has changed. The act of loving others for the sake of Allah has brought this change.


SAJIDA: My life was full of negative feelings. Now I feel very light. First and second day was very good. I removed all the garbage from my head. I could concentrate on my namaz. I have now the power to control my nafs. I would like to surrender myself to Allah totally, I want Him to control my life and guide me. I want to fill my heart with positive feelings and Iman. I am giving up blaming my spouse, in-laws and my negative feelings. I like you to come to Kerala every month.


YASMIN: I have become more patient. I understand other people better. I for the first time in many years did not fight with my sister. I kept quiet whenever we were on the verge of it and even she did not go on. It was really good. This was something that was bothering me for a very long time. And now I am free. I feel I am happier, alive and that I can get 90% in my 12 board exams.


SUMMAYA: Before the workshop I used to be a nagging and short-tempered mother but now I have learnt to listen to my children without judging them. However irritating it might be, I talk to them calmly and now they reply to me the same way. I know the workshop is working. I am happy now.


TASMIA: Before attending the workshop, I was confused and could not think straight. This workshop was like a light from darkness for me. Everything that was happening in my life has become clear. I am able to forget and forgive everyone. I am able to see everyone in a new light.


AMINA: Before this workshop: I use to get angry soon, never listen to my parents and even I look others with bad view. I had bad thoughts whether I will be happy after my marriage. After this workshop: I have changed my self. I am able to control my anger and listen to my parents patiently. Now I feel good about others. They all look good to me. The bad thoughts about marriage removed and now I accept every thing and will make my husband, my family and myself happy.


TASNEEM: I found a dramatic difference in my life after attending the workshop. The change in the attitude of my relatives who also attended the workshop towards me made me very happy. They communicated with me with an open heart, which made my heart lighter, and I also reacted to them in the same way. The atmosphere in my family changed, benefiting all of us.

The Three-Day Discover Yourself Workshop was conducted in Dubai at ‘Star International School’ on 13, 14 & 15th June 2007.


The participants share their experiences after the Workshop.

AYESHA: Before the workshop my perception about my life was different-very much negative, always blaming others or holding others responsible. The first day of the workshop was a difficult one as I could not understand much, due to lot of confusions. But gradually things became easy and clear after attending the next two days of the workshop. Now I am not bothered about my past, but to make efforts to make my future by being in the present.


SARA: This workshop has helped me come out of the box in which I was living since my childhood. I was a short tempered girl and I especially get more irritated by my father and mother and other people. But since the workshop, I have started, my fight with my nafs and have stopped judging people, my family and everyone. Now I am able to communicate much better with my family.


ZAHRA: Alhamdulillah! It has definitely opened up my eyes, my perspective, my mind and heart. I feel now I can see tings from a different view, in that hurting non-especially myself. Masha Allah, I think the topics that were covered were the most basic ones- if we work on it and practice it every day, I think we can lead a healthy, happy life. The teaching skills were different. As for my family we have learnt to be more open and frank with each other. That way there is just peace and happiness in our family.


AHMED: I have learnt to analyse my actions and correct the mistakes committed in the past, control my anger and interact with my family members and colleagues by listening to them and try to overcome the problems in day to day life.


ALI: Before the workshop, it was difficult to stop waswas (inner negative voice) and to take grudges out of my heart. I learnt to forgive. I found my identity, my voice! I know the choices, I make, I am responsible for them and it is in my hand to declare my future in a positive way!


ANWAR: I was in past, blame, reasoning, unconscious, unforgiving, revenge, pride and enemity world to present, choice, consciousness, forgiving, realiza- tion and responsible world. I changed my background from human doing to human being.


NASEEM: Very useful! It refreshed and nourished me with more good, positive thoughts. I learnt to live in the present. I never ‘thought’ of the question ‘Who am I?’ this question itself helped me to discover myself. I am quite well relieved from my tensions. The workshop is worth. A valuable one, Insha Allah will uplift our community.


SHAH: Life was going as if it was a train of stress. Even good things were looking to be threatening. If any body would say a word, I would immediately give back a befitting reply. This workshop has given me an opportunity to create my future. I realized the importance of forgiveness. I was one of those avenging type that I would not leave anyone who has hurt me. My way of thinking has really changed, I am looking for a brighter future, Insha Allah. Good work. May Allah give you success.


SYED: Before the workshop, I had lack of confidence, not loving myself and hated my father more than anything in the world. After the workshop I asked forgiveness from my father, started loving my parents, wife and humanity from my heart. It has totally transformed my life.


ZAHIR: My future had tons of past which blinded me. It opened my view and made me realize that we live in an unreal world. It connected me to my family, I got back the real family members whom I loved and cared. It gave me an opportunity to know my weaknesses, now I can work on removing them.