The Evolution of Matchmaking and Marriage in India

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The Evolution of Matchmaking and Marriage in India

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Historical Perspectives on Matchmaking
From ancient India to the modern era, matchmaking has evolved significantly. In ancient India, matches were made considering astrological compatibility, social status, and family background. Medieval Europe saw the rise of “marriage brokers,” and the 18th century brought England’s first matchmaking agency with a systematic approach to client compatibility. By the 20th century, psychological testing revolutionized matchmaking, leading to the development of “psychological matching.” The 1960s saw the advent of computer-based systems, and the 1990s introduced online platforms, paving the way for global accessibility.

Matchmaking in India
In India, matchmaking has traditionally been a family-centered activity. Relatives and friends played the role of matchmakers, often exaggerating qualities of prospective brides or grooms. Over time, professional matchmakers emerged, providing paid services to families. These matchmakers initially relied on typewritten biodata and photographs, which have now transitioned to digital formats shared via email and WhatsApp, making the process faster and more convenient.

The Rise of Online Matrimonial Apps
The advent of matrimonial apps like Shaadi.com, Jeevansathi.com, and Bharat Matrimony has revolutionized the matchmaking process. These platforms offer extensive profiles and preferences, connecting families and individuals globally. While parents often manage these profiles, the potential bride and groom can interact independently later. Meetings typically take place in a neutral setting, and thorough background checks are essential to ensure authenticity, given the risks of online fraud. Compatibility remains a key focus, with lifestyle similarities playing a crucial role in successful alliances.

The Need for Pre-Marital Counselling
Social activists advocate for mandatory pre-marital counselling as a prerequisite for marriage registration. Retired IAS officer Ms. Nikhat Abroo Tabassum highlights efforts to establish pre-marital counselling centers in Karnataka, inspired by Christian practices where such courses are mandatory. The Church’s initiative has significantly reduced domestic violence and marital discord, emphasizing the value of pre-marital education.

Promoting Marital Harmony
The DMS Human Rights Foundation, led by Mr. Hyder Vali, has published the fourth edition of The Art of Successful Marriage. Priced at Rs. 50, the book offers Islamic perspectives on marriage, covering 81 sub-chapters, including the etiquette of marital life and practical guidelines for harmonious relationships. It provides 20 golden rules for wives and husbands to foster understanding and prevent conflicts. The book is available through Moulana Mahmood Ali Mazhari (Mob: 9342867828) or the Brainy Stars School office (Mob: 8123646862).

Conclusion
Matchmaking and marriage in India have transitioned from traditional familial arrangements to sophisticated digital platforms. The integration of pre-marital counselling and resources like The Art of Successful Marriage can further strengthen marital bonds, fostering peace and stability in families and society.

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