Supplication of Parents Answered Immediately
Commentary by Adil Salahi
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, who quotes the Prophet (Pbuh) as saying: “Three prayers are answered without doubt: a prayer by a person suffering injustice, and a prayer by a traveller, and a prayer by parents against a child of their own”. (Related by Ahmad, Al-Tirmithi )
Relationship with Allah
When a person believes in Islam, he develops a permanent close relationship with Allah. To him, this relationship is more real than any relationship he may have with his relatives, neighbours or friends. He feels that Allah watches over him, has knowledge of his thoughts, fears, hopes and ambitions.He knows his weakness and points of strength, motives, temptations and innermost thoughts and secrets. The stronger the faith of a Muslim is, the more real and vivid his relationship with Allah becomes. He turns to Allah at every point and prays to Him for guidance, help, mercy and forgiveness. If he does something good he thanks Allah for enabling him to do it. If he makes a mistake, he prays to Him for forgiveness. If he hopes to achieve something, he prays Allah to fulfil it. If he stands in fear of something, he prays to Him to protect him against it. This sort of prayer, or du'aa is the companion of a Muslim throughout his life. He resorts to it like a soldier resorts to his weapon when he goes to fight. Du'aa provides a Muslim with unfailing support. He feels that he does not stand alone against the problems of life, whatever they are. A Muslim fears nothing more than being abandoned by Allah. When he prays to Allah he feels that He would not abandon him. After all, he says in the Qur'an: "Your Lord says: pray Me and I will answer you." (40:60)
|Parents do every act of kindness for their children and pray against them only when their sense of injury is more than their natural love for them. Normally parents forgive easily even if the children have offended them deeply.|
Allah grants our Prayers
This verse from the Qur’an suggests that our prayers will always be answered. The Prophet tells us, however, that when we pray Allah he either grants us immediately what we have asked Him, or He may store it for us till the Day of Judgement when He gives it to us multiplied several times. When we will be granted whatever we asked, we would wish that Allah should have deferred granting us everything we prayed Him for in this world. This means that some of our prayers Allah will answer in this world. We feel that they are answered and we see the results with our own eyes. This enhances our feeling that our relationship with Allah is not something abstract. It is so real that it has its marked effects in our real lives.
Three Persons Prayers Answered
The prophet tells us in several Hadiths which prayers are granted straight away. One of these Hadiths is related by Ahmad, Al-Tirmithi and others on the authority of Abu Hurairah, who quotes the Prophet (Pbuh) as saying: “Three prayers are answered without doubt: a prayer by a person suffering injustice, and a prayer by a traveller, and a prayer by parents against a child of their own”. All three types of people share in common the condition that they have no one around to turn to for the fulfillment of their legitimate needs. When a person suffers injustice, his last resort is Allah. He turns to Him and prays Him with sincerity, hope and faith that He alone can restore justice to him.
Similarly, a person who has travelled away from home feels himself a stranger among people with whom he may have little in common. That gives him a sense of weakness. When he prays to Allah, he does so with devotion and sincerity. Parents do not normally pray to Allah against their own children unless they are genuinely and deeply hurt by them. Nothing hurts a human being more than ingratitude. When he does someone a good turn, he expects his good turn to be appreciated. If, instead, the other person is ungrateful, he feels deeply hurt. Parents normally do every kindness they can to their children. They have a double motive to do so: their natural inclination as parents, and their hope to be rewarded by Allah.
|Prayers of a traveller, a person who has been denied justice and parents who feel aggrieved from
their offspring are answered immediately by Allah.|
To his parents, a child represents hope for the future. When the helpless young boy of yesterday is a man going through life with confidence and ability, benefiting by his upbringing, his parents may stand in need of him because they have grown older and weaker. When the kindness they expect does not materialize, they still hope that their son will soon recognize his duty towards them. At first, their forgiveness is easily forthcoming. Repeated unkindness by the son, however, is bound to leave a growing sense of disappointment. If he hurts them so badly they give up on him, they feel that no one can restore their rights except Allah. If they pray to Allah against their own child, it means that they have been so hurt by him that their sense of injury becomes much stronger than their natural love of their own child. Such an injury cannot escape punishment by Allah. No one who has a shred of faith in Allah would cherish the prospect of having his parents praying to Allah for support against him. If a Muslim finds himself in that position, he must immediately go back to his parents, ask them to forgive his mistakes and try as hard as he can to compensate them for his past unkindness. Normally, parents will easily forgive, even if their son or daughter has deeply offended them.
The Prophet (Pbuh) gives us an example of how Allah answers a parent’s supplication to Him against their own children without fail. Both Al-Bukhari and Muslim relate on the authority of Abu Hurairah who mentions that he heard the Prophet saying: “No human child spoke in his cradle except for Jesus, son of Mary, and the friend of Jurayj. The Prophet was asked: “Who was the friend of Jurayj?” The Prophet answered: “Jurayj was a monk who lived in his hermitage. A cowherd used to make his abode at the foot of Jurayj’s hermitage. A woman from the village used to come to the cowherd (having an affair with him.)
One day, his mother came and called him, ‘Jurayj!’, when he was in his prayers. He said to himself while praying: “Should I answer my mother or continue with my prayer?” He preferred to continue with his prayer. She shouted to him a second time, and he thought, “My mother or my prayer?” He again thought it better to continue with his prayer. She called him a third time and he again thought: “My mother or my prayer?” Again he thought it better to continue with his prayer. When he did not answer her, she said: “Jurayj, may Allah not let you die until you have looked in the faces of prostitutes.” She then left. (Perhaps we should explain here that his mother did not pray that he should commit any sin, but rather that he should be humiliated among people before he died.)
Later, the village woman was taken to the king after she had given birth to a child. The king asked her who was his father. She answered “It is Jurayj’s.” He asked: “The man in the hermitage?” She answered, “Yes”. He ordered that the hermitage should be destroyed and that Jurayj should be brought before him. They hacked at his hermitage with axes until it collapsed. They bound his hand to his neck with a rope and took him along. They passed with him by the prostitutes. When he saw them, he smiled. They were looking at him along with other people.
The king asked him: “What have you to you say to the claim of this woman?” He replied: “What does she claim?” He said: “She claims that you are the father of her child.” He asked her, “Do you claim that?” She answered in the affirmative. He asked “Where is the little one?” They replied that it was in her lap. He turned to the child and said: “Little one, who is your father?” The child answered: “The cowherd.”
The king said to him: “Shall we rebuild your hermitage with gold? He replied “No”. He said, “With silver, then?” He answered “No”. The king asked, “Then of what shall we make it?” He answered, “Put it back as it was” The king asked him, “What made you smile?” He answered, “Something which I recognized. My mother’s supplication has been fulfilled. He told them the story.
Consequences of Parent's Supplication
In this Hadith, the Prophet (Pbuh) teaches us that even a man who has dedicated himself to prayer could not escape the consequences of his mother’s supplication against him, if she has genuine grievance. Jurayj did not make any mistake by continuing with his prayer. His mother might have been unaware that he was in the middle of his prayer. She was genuinely annoyed when he did not answer her after she had called him thrice. Her supplication was not extremely serious. She felt a little humiliated and she prayed that her son would be humiliated in return. Allah granted her prayer in the terms she wished. We should, then, be careful how we treat parents. Whatever we do, we must not let them feel offended by our attitude toward them. We should guard against them coming to feel hurt by us that they would turn to Allah for justice.
As it has been explained earlier, Allah grants a parent’s supplication against his child without delay. Allah also answers the supplication of parents for their children. This, however, may be deferred. A dutiful child, however, will certainly feel that his parent’s supplication on his behalf brings him immeasurable benefits. He will undoubtedly be successful in life.