Solving Life’s Problems
When you accept the reality of the present situation, rather than resist the reality, you are more likely to take positive actions.
By Sheima Salam Sumer
Here are two necessary steps to solve life’s problems:
1. Accept the reality of the present problem.
2. Positive actions
1. Acceptance: This means that you feel calm about the reality that this problem is there. You do not feel overly emotional, extremely upset, or frantic. It is normal to feel a little bit unhappy about the problem. However, you patiently accept the reality of the situation.
Once, when I arrived in Turkey from America, some of my suitcases were lost. Someone had mistakenly sent my suitcases to the wrong airport in another country. I also lost the luggage tracking ticket and it was very difficult to track my luggage. Initially I was extremely distraught. I was also very tired from all the traveling. God helped me to realize that my strong negative feelings of being upset and distraught were harming me more than helping me. I realized that I had to calmly accept this problem and work from there.
2. Positive action – The first and best positive action to take is to pray to God about any problems you are facing. Then look for other positive actions to take. For example, talk to other people and ask them for their ideas. In the case of my lost luggage, my husband encouraged me to go to the passport counters and ask them if anyone had left a luggage tracking ticket there. I was not hopeful, but I took his advice, and with the help of God, we found my lost luggage tracking ticket. I also had to take positive actions of calling the different airlines multiple times to explain to them my situation. It took some time, but with the help of God I was able to finally obtain my lost luggage.
When you accept the reality of the present situation , rather than resist the reality, you are more likely to take positive actions that will solve your problems with the help of God. Remember to take responsibility for your feelings and your actions.
“…Surely Allah does not change the conditions in which a people are in until they change that which is in themselves… (Holy Quran 13:11).”