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Islamic Parenting Guidance, Perfect means of Upbringing

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Since 1954 every year on November 20, Children’s Day has been celebrated universally to promote international togetherness, awareness among children worldwide, and improve children’s welfare.
Every child deserves to have good parents and a proper upbringing, which would also promote their welfare.
However, parenting has never been an easy task; it is complex and daunting, as our children do not come with a manual.
While there are no fixed instructions to upbring a child, Islamic principles can provide us with practical parenting approaches to raise righteous children.
Although there are tried and true strategies in modern psychology based upon child development theories, Islamic principles having roots in the Quran and the sayings of Imams and Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) are also a great treasure to guide parents in raising their children.
Children are born Pure
Prophet Mohammad (PBUH): “No one is born except according to intrinsic nature, but their parents make them Jews, or Christians, or Magians, just as a cow gives birth to a calf that is whole do you find it mutilated?”
As a general rule, children learn what they see more than what they hear. So, in order to bring up a pious and righteous child as a parent, the first thing to do is to be a role model for them.
Children are born pure, innocent, and instinctively predisposed to believe in Allah. Therefore, when a child misbehaves, they probably imitate what they have seen and cannot be blamed.
To nurture the child’s innate goodness of child parents should lead them by behaving well and not just preaching about good deeds and lecturing children on the importance of being pious. Actions definitely speak louder than words.
Treat children with kindness and Mercy
Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) treated everyone with kindness and mercy, especially children. He used to let children climb over him while in prostration and prostrate long enough for his grandsons to play as much as they wished.
It is essential to understand that it is natural to play or even make a mistake in a child’s nature. Instead of blaming and scolding them, it is best to forgive them, explain why they did wrong, and help them rectify their mistakes or apologize.
Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) also emphasizes the importance of cuddling and kissing children to make them feel safe and wanted and continue the physical affection even when they grow up and get older.
Scientifically, skin contact, or physical touch such as hugging and kissing, is one of the most essential stimulation required to grow a healthy brain and a strong body while help supports emotional development.
Set boundaries
Setting boundaries and guidelines help teach your children the correct and accepted behavior. Rewarding good behaviors encourage children to act according to the rules.
Teach children to be responsible
“Nay, and by the moon, And by the night when it withdraws, And by the dawn when it brightens, Verily, it is but one of the greatest calamities. A warning to mankind, To any of you that chooses to go forward (by doing righteous deeds), or to remain behind (by committing sins), Every person is beheld (accountable) on his own deeds.”
[Quran: Chapter 74,
Verses 32-38] According to Allah, everyone is accountable for their own deeds. It is essential to teach children to be responsible to be independent, reliable, and productive in the future.
When they have a role in the family, they will be prepared to have a role in society, feel useful, and be accountable for their actions.
Start with small tasks. Assigning the children to do simple responsibilities while they are very young, like bringing their plate to the kitchen after finishing their food, would prepare for bigger responsibilities as they age.
Teaching children Islamic ethics
At age seven, children are ready for logical reasoning and, in the case of Muslim families, Islamic ethics. This is the time when children are prepared to soak up anything and everything you show, teach and tell them.
At this stage of upbringing, you can teach them about your religious beliefs. Remind them every day that Allah loves them unconditionally, and so they must love and obey Him and avoid displeasing Him.
Help your children realize how dependent we are on Allah and recognize and acknowledge the innumerable gifts that Allah has given them, such as availability of food and water, a secure home, being healthy, etc.
Treat all your children Equally
“Be just, for it is closer to piety. Have fear of God; God is Well Aware of what you do.”
[Quran: Chapter 5, Verses 8] The Holy Prophet (PBUH) has emphasized that parents should be just and fair to all the children, particularly in matters of gifts and kindness.
Discrimination among the children and favoring one more than the others will lead to jealousy, and nothing but evil can arise from this. The discriminated against child may hold a grudge against the parents, and the painful consequences are easy to imagine.
Importance of proper Upbringing
And those who pray, “Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.”
[Quran: Chapter 25,
Verse 74] Children delight our hearts in their childhood and our companions and comfort when they get older. In Islamic law, parents are asked to guarantee a good life for their children. Even in divorce, fathers are fully responsible for providing their children with food, clothing, and other expenses.
Children are not just gifts; they are a responsibility. Love them unconditionally, talk with them about their feelings and validate them, listen to them, play and have fun with them, discipline them but do not shame or blame them, etc.
Parents are required to make sure their children are mentally and physically healthy by giving them proper upbringing, of course, according to their living standards, so that today’s children become an asset to their families and the society in the future.
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