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The Most Difficult, and the Most Easy

Evil in God’s Name: What Can You and I Do About It?
Parent’s Day Out-Part 1
Examining Ourselves

Accusing others of doing wrong is only a cheap way of asserting yourself over others.

There appears to be only a minor difference in these two phrases: “You are wrong!” and “I am wrong!”, but in reality the difference between the two is immense. There are millions of people in the world who will readily accuse others of doing wrong, but almost none who willingly acknowledge their own.
When you accuse others of doing wrong, you negate or put them down, while when you admit that you’ve done wrong, you negate yourself. Negating others is easy, while negating oneself is the most difficult. Many movements in recent times have mobilised vast numbers of people based on the slogan “You are wrong!” The sole reason for the popularity of these movements and their ‘big’ leaders is that they have targeted some external person or community, accusing them of doing wrong. Had they emerged to negate themselves, they would have won no supporters at all!
“I am wrong” are words of wisdom. They help develop your character, and take you from a lower to a higher plane. In contrast, “You are wrong!” is a superficial phrase and of no help in inner realization. Accusing others of wrongdoing entangles you in matters of no benefit whatsoever to you. Saying “I am wrong” helps you reform yourself, while the “You are wrong!” approach only promotes destruction. “I am wrong” reflects devotion to, and worship of, God, while “You are wrong” reflects worship of the ego. Admitting that one has done wrong is a meritorious thing, while accusing others of doing wrong is only a cheap way of asserting yourself over others. Not hesitating to say “I am wrong” is piety, while condemning others for having done wrong is worldliness.